LOVE OUT OF SEASON

To wrap up the Sunday Love Code teaching series, we had the privilege of having our Apostle pst_iren teach on Love out of Season.

SERMON EXCERPTS * Many people mistake having things in common as compatibility. * A good home isn't one devoid of conflicts. * A good person can be poor in emotional regulation. * You must learn to love out of season. * Marriage also have four seasons. Winter is when there is coldness towards each other and communication doesn't flow as expected. * Don't destroy something permanent for something temporary. * Until you learn to love the Bible way, you aren't loving the right way. * No matter how long your dating phase is, you'll never really know everything about the person. * Marriage is a covenant and not a contract. It is God’s idea. Genesis 2:18, Matthew 19:6. * Treat marriage first and above all else as a covenant. * Difference between a covenant and a contract 1. Contract is an exchange of goods, services and obligations. Covenant is the union of two persons. Genesis 2:24 ▪︎ Many people don't choose a partner for who the person is but for what the person can do for them. ▪︎ A contract joins interest while a covenant joins lives.

2. Contract is conditional on performance. Covenant is based on a promise and not a performance. ▪︎ If one party fails, the contract is terminated. 3. Contract defines specific duties and limited obligations. Covenant involves a lot more including financial, physical and emotional duties. ▪︎ Contract protects assets while marriage shares everything. ▪︎ God is the author of the marriage covenant.

* Many women will submit when they feel safe. When you feel safe, deference is easy. Ephesians 5:22 * Ladies admire initiative and leadership. *A man you correct all the time will see you as his mother. * The real covenant is in the marriage and not the wedding. * You must learn to love out of season to have a successful marriage. * What will make a marriage survive are the things you don't like about your spouse which you begin to like. * Love is sacrifice. * Anybody who can't follow the biblical instruction to honour their parents can't follow the biblical instruction to love his wife and submit to her husband. * When God is the standard, it changes everything. Romans 5:8, Matthew 5:46. * If you come into a marriage with a red pen, there will be a lot of things to make wrong. It's a perspective issue. * You don't love your spouse because they're always lovable but as Christ loved the church. * Purpose is more important than pleasure..